Monthly Archives: March 2013

Emotion #9: Frustration

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Frustration seems to be the emotion du jour every day these days.  Things are stagnant or even spiralling backwards right now.  Once constant sleeping through the night is sporadic at best, potty training has been entirely derailed and he cares even less (if that was even possible!) than he did before.  School behavior has been atrocious, and is worse on days when the sleep has been lacking.  There’s now hitting, kicking, and pushing in our world, none of which were things we used to see.  It’s all just SO frustrating.

This makes it sound like there’s never any reprieve and that’s not true.  We DO have good days.  Usually those days follow good sleep.  Yesterday was a great day.  There were no tantrums, he was “completely on” at school according to his teacher, he was cooperative at every turn.  He had also taken an hour nap the previous afternoon and then slept 11 hours (unheard of!) straight through the night.

Sleep is obviously the key to a lot of our “mess” right now, but how to get it to be consistent is a whole different issue.  Yikes.

“I Am Listening…”

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Sometimes I have to remind myself that inside of my quiet little boy, things are in fact ticking away quite normally.  I know this for many reasons.  His subtle reactions to things, or asking for a particular item later on after it’s been mentioned.  There’s also the previous post where my sweet little guy knew he was sad about his difficult day.

There have been many times when my husband and I have discussed things about our child in front of him, or when family members on the phone have asked how he’s doing, we usually give the answer even if he’s in the room.  My mom has chastised me several times for this, and it took a long time to truly sink in.  He is listening.  He does understand.  I tell people how smart he is all the time, so why don’t I always acknowledge it?

This recent article sums things up pretty well, but the bottom line is that just because my son doesn’t communicate the way most people do, it doesn’t mean he’s not listening to the world around him.