There’s one autism blog I follow with any regularity. Life With Greyson. Chrissy is the mom of 2 autistic kiddos who are almost identical in age to my own kids, and is so brutally honest about their day to day life. There have been many things she’s said that seem like thoughts she pulled from my own brain.
She was recently featured on Momastery, which I know a lot of people follow. If you want another peek at what life can be like for families on the spectrum, it’s definitely worth a read. Not only are her regular blog posts beautiful and heartfelt, but she’s a great photographer and really captures her precious little boys.
Well, it has been a couple weeks and we are doing alright with all the potty business! We are basically back to where we started before the stupid pull-ups, so that is good. And as for little Beanie, she is mostly accident-free. It looks like our June 30th deadline is not going to be an issue.
Now, the reason I say things are just “alright” is because both kids are on a poo in the potty strike. WEIRD. But, if that is the biggest issue right now, and the only other issue is the occasional accident, I’m good!
If you need your faith in humanity restored or renewed, here’s the blog post for you. I saw this shared on one of the ASD parent forums I follow and am SO glad I read it. Not only does it perfectly explain the prep work that is going somewhere major and how difficult situations can be when children are fixated on something, but it also shows how a simple act of kindness and compassion make or break things for kids on the spectrum.
*Note: The man she is speaking to does respond eventually in the comments. The whole thing is just incredible.
There are plenty of reasons to get excited….usually they involve some kind of new skill learned or a breakthrough of some sort. I could be excited that I have 2 kids who are peeing (only) on the potty…..I could be excited some of the little activities I made were enjoyed by my son. I could be excited that we still have another week before the inevitable battles that will come with trying out the summer school program. But today is excitement for myself. I read over the weekend that Temple Grandin is coming HERE. Apparently this was announced back in April, but I never knew. Anyway, she will be here for a lecture one month from now!
Having read 4 of her books and seen the movie (which, incidentally, if you haven’t seen, you should. I have kept it on my DVR for at least 2 years now.), I have learned a lot about autism spectrum disorders and the way some of these kids/people think. A lot of the most helpful ways that she learned and processed things sound so much like my little Buggy. I have heard from many sources that hearing her speak in person is simply incredible.
SO…tickets are purchased for my mom and me….now I just need baby 3 to cooperate and keep cooking without any problems so we can actually attend.
We are going for it. Double potty training……as in, my 4 year old and 2 year old at the same time. With d-day for #3 looming not so far off in the distance, we are operating under a short time frame before having to wait. Our doctor said if they don’t “have it” by June 30th, cut our losses til after September. That would mean there would be a few months of 3 kids in diapers, and we are hoping to avoid that (I mean, who wouldn’t want to avoid that?!?).
It was super-disappointing that our original potty progress was derailed this winter. The “anxiety” he was supposedly having at school that required us to send him to school in pull-ups just made him lazy and complacent. After a few weeks, he wasn’t going at all at home anymore. I THINK he still did sometimes at school, but it wasn’t like they were giving me the run down of his potty breaks each day. So, I went ahead and gave myself permission to be lazy and complacent as well.
But now, it’s go time. We have been in the throes of potty training since Sunday. As of today, there have been a LOT of accidents….but we have also had some nice successes. It’s pretty amazing how seeing your child pee on the potty ONE time can erase a day’s worth of accidents from your mind. And it is also amazing how bonkers repeated accidents can nearly bring me to my breaking point. Right now, our biggest hurdle is the p-double o. The little mister has always been very against doing it in a toilet, and so that makes it extra challenging to get little sis to jump on board.
He is basically back in the same place he was at the peak of our progress: little to no objection about peeing on a toilet, occasional accidents when busy doing something more preferable, and no poop on the toilet.
My daughter, however, is a complete roller coaster of progress: A day of all accidents and one pee success, followed by the complete reverse (one accident and the rest successes….but poo withholding). Repeat over the following 2 days…..She did manage to use the potty at the babysitter’s, so that’s good.
We just think that if ONE of them gets totally on board, the other will follow suit……and we’ll keep thinking that until proven wrong. 🙂